Yes I got a bit frustrated when I read a post on Facebook. It was about a couple who were going to adopt, and they wondered if it was better if the child were two years old or three because they didn’t want it to be hard for the child to feel connected to them.
At first I was a bit upset because they didn’t want help from me as adopted, they wanted help from the adoptive parents and I mean… the adoptees knows more about that than the adoptive parents right?
And the second thing is that they for real think that it is the age that matter, you can be a baby when you’re being adopted and still have hard to feel connected to the parents. It doesn’t only depends on the child, it can be the parents that don’t give the child the love it needs. Adoptees need very much love when they are being adopted.
Why does it matter how old the child is and how hard it is to make the child feel connected? If you really want a child and will love the child like it was your biological child, anything else wouldn’t matter. So please don’t be so selfish when you’re adopting a child, and remember it is YOU as adoptive parent who should feel grateful about the child not the opposite.