Finishing my story. I contacted Gustavo a professional parents searcher and he guided me and explained all the process. I gave him my biological mothers names that my adoptive aunt provided me three years ago. Gustavo was able to find my biological mother and she was very happy and emotional. We talked over the phone after a few days. My husband was excited too and happy for me, I gave him my mother’s phone number and he called her, but he mistakenly offended her because he told her he doubted she was my mother. I didn’t know this was happening so I called her and she complaint about him so I said there’s is probably a misunderstanding because he was happy and excited. I then called my half sister for the first time and she was having an attitude and was not nice to me, instead she started complaining about my husband and told me her mother was deeply hurt and if I doubt she is my mother to just forget about everything and move on with our own lives.
So I am a member of many “adopted from colombia”- groups. And this is what Ana-Lucia Sarhai wrote about her childhood.
Hi everyone. My story might be one of a kind. I was adopted at age of 18 months by a single woman. Her mother wanted to adopt but she couldn’t due to her age. She was too old to adopt. I got raised by my dear grandmother Graceland, and lived about 6 years in Colombia . Then I moved to the United States with my adoptive grandmother. All of her sons and daughters lived here almost all of their lives. I was told by age 8 that I was adopted, but I didn’t feel surprise. I always loved my grandmother. I was adopted spoiled on child girl that had almost everything she could give me. But then I always wondered and wanted to see my biological mother. It was a great I so at age 23 I started searching for her on Facebook and Google but nothing. So then I watched a show about adoptees looking for their biological family with the help of a parent searcher called Gustavo. Ad it called my attention and I contacted him. He helped me a lot, I’m so thankful.
The next part:
So telling about my story, after moving to the USA we lived with my aunt and she was jealous about me and didn’t get alone. She didn’t like me and I didn’t either. I lived a nightmare. At age 18 I graduated from high school and got a good job but my grandmother and aunt didn’t go to my graduation so I went alone with my boyfriend (now my husband) my aunt and grandmother didn’t a good relationship by that time. So after graduating I got my first job at Payless Shoes. a few months my aunt and grandmother decided to move to Colombia And asked me if I was moving with them or staying in California by myself. So I decided to stayed and asked my boyfriend if he wanted to move and live with me and yes we did that! My adoptive mother was living in New York. So then I started going to a nursing school and got my certificate…
And I will publish the last part as well.
Don’t worry I asked her if I could publish it here.
Karen Askenberger was adopted 1995. She came to Sweden when she was 1 year old. From Cali to the south part of Sweden. There are many families that don’t tell their children about their origins but Karens parents have always told her about where she is from. When she grew up she didn’t experience any bully just people that weren’t so intelligent and told her mean things, but she stayed positive and didn’t let that ruin her life. Of course she has felt angry and sad about the adoption which is very common.
December 26 2013 was the date when she found her biological mother, She got help from Colombia tú país (a company that help people find their families). “Actually they(CTP) called me on christmas eve” she says. Now she has contact with her brother and mother. Even though there are difficulties with the language they still have a good relationship but she hope the relationship will grow stronger.
Then I ask her what her opinion about adoption was, and she answered this:
It is a good option if you can’t have children by yourself. But I think they should follow the adoptions and control that everything is alright, for example I want them to add an authority that can follow the adoptee until it is 18 years old, In that way they can minimize the risk of families that treat their children wrong. I think adoption is good for the children because they are getting a second chance if the parents are good of course.